As I mentioned in my New Years Resolutions post, I had a crazy 2018 but to be honest the struggle has produced a lot of positive things. My creativity and creative thinking process has been through the roof lately which is really cool. I am trying new things that I have never done before and I’m exploring creative options that I hadn’t considered in the past.
This is the crazy thing about creative thinking. We are so critical of the creative process and so distrustful when it comes to our own creative prowess. Yes, I just said “prowess”
Why? Well, I have been thinking about this a lot and I think it has a lot to do with our social constructs and the social environment we are placed in.
Throughout my life, I feel like my creative thinking process has been seen as a weakness by a lot of people. Let me explain.
When I was young I had so many interests: dancing, music, singing, acting, drawing, politics, painting, reading and running. Oh, I also even joined a football and basketball team at one point in my life. (lol).
I have at some point in my life considered myself a future actor, singer, writer, etc.
Every time I come up with some new wild dream about becoming a Pulitzer prize winning poet I have had to look at a lot of eyes roll. Oh, James is a poet now. Oh James is an actor now, Oh James is…
And I get it, my dreams have often been wild and frequent. Once I wanted to be a psychologist (actually got a degree for that one). Once I thought I would be a good personal trainer. I once felt a burning hot desire to write the next great novel, and then after a week and 20 pages I stop writing. So of course, just another idea that didn’t manifest into anything.
Let me tell you about some other wild dreams that I have had.
Learning a second language;
Running a marathon;
Becoming a photographer;
Being a business owner;
Traveling the world.
I speak three languages;
I live in the most beautiful city in the world;
I have run 5 marathons;
I have been published in Vogue;
I am my own boss;
I’ve lost count of how many countries I’ve traveled to.
Now it sounds like I’m bragging, but the honest truth is that I have struggled, fallen, gotten beaten up, and been pushed around in pursuit of these dreams. I can’t explain why some of my dreams fell short after a week and some took off. Some things were meant to be and other’s weren’t. Things that worked out took hard work and a touch of magic.
One thing is for sure. If I didn’t have this wild imaginative crazy creative mind I would have never have dreamed of living in France. I would have never have sailed through the Mediterranean sea. I wouldn’t have had the guts to approach people light years out of my “league”.
Subconsciously, I have always been OK about accepting defeat. When something I do fails, I generally shake myself off and continue to my next wild dream. This has been a huge advantage in my life. My set backs have never gotten the best of me.
I LOVE to create businesses in my mind. When I’m running I often conceive of entire business plans in my mind. When I rush to tell someone about my genius idea I’m often deflated by their boring string of practical considerations.
Today I have taken considerable action to remove these boring practical losers from my life. Guess what, life is FILLED with practical bull shit. Everywhere you turn there is something practical to consider. You’re not even allowed to cross a road if there isn’t a series of white stripes painted on that particular strip of asphalt. The world is over balanced with practical. You could spend all day filling out various paperwork and still have more fine print to read. Start your business based off a dream and don’t worry you will run into practical things without someone rubbing them into your face.
I have very few close friends. I confide in very few people. One of the reasons is that I feel people subconcisously bias your perception of the world. If someone rolls their eyes at your idea or belittles you it’s like a bell. You can choose to ignore the bell but you can not unhear the bell.
“Oh James, another one of your ideas…”
“Oh, you’ve never been good at math…”
“Oh James you’re funny…”
Really? Fuck off just because you’re brain dead and haven’t thought of anything remotely interesting in years. HARSH, I know, but I mean honestly, these people have no room in my life. I’m in my early thirties. Still a young man but old enough to look back and see what is working and what is not. Let me tell you something that NEVER works for personal and professional growth: surrounding yourself with uninspiring and unsupportive people.
This is what I want out of my life:
“I just thought, wouldn’t it be cool if we start a business where people fly to Mars”
“OMG, yes, and there should be a hot tub filled with Fanta soda and dolphins serve you champagne”
THIS IS WHAT GOOD FRIENDS SAY! LOL.
After my Mars tourism business fails I’m just going to move onto the next wild idea. But who knows, maybe the next one will actually catch.
The take home point: have fun failing, have fun dreaming, enjoy your wild side and don’t let other people pollute your mind!